I’ve been told that I’m a nice, cool headed, patience guy. I’m not sure if I’m all of those anymore.
Once you start helping people, you start gathering feedback, hear ideas, and at some point, for a reason that you can’t even comprehend you think it will be cool to do a thing and you have the time and ability to do it, without receiving anything in exchange. I’m not a paid employee of Red Hat or any other company to work for Fedora, I started using it because the community is nice and technically it worked in all my computers (some of them required extra work, but I was quite used to make things work).
But once you do one thing, the first thing you receive is hate, and c’mon, I understand that there are old-fashioned guys that will love to keep everything in the terminal without GUIs and hate everything new and hate every company in the world, but I have written now 3 articles about flatpaks, and the first 2 comments on all of them are pure hate.
I get that we are entitled to have our opinions but we have to be, or try to be, polite and civil, not spread hate and be able to agree to disagree, but it’s exhausting. I try to help users, community members and teams, I answer questions, post stuff that I find useful on the magazine, I started the Fedora Podcast (even when I didn’t knew a thing about podcasts), I gave feedback here and there, I use software and report bugs and file features requests, I try to document things (I stopped a while ago because lack of time), and I help with moderation here. And I have to say it:
I’m tired of people and both social and technical rules
- If you don’t like it, DON’T F&$&%$ USE IT
- If you don’t like it, F%/&%$$/&%/$ DO IT YOURSELF
- If your way of doing things is better, PROVE IT IN SILENCE
- if you don’t have anything nice to say, SHUT THE f(/&%(/% UP
- Yes, YOU ARE F&%$/&%$ STUPID
- If it works for you, USE IT
- Yes, vim is better
- There aren’t absolutely any reason to don’t mention or hide RPM Fusion repos, they provide good stuff that official repos don’t
- Yes, we force boundaries and sacrifice users in the road, and that’s not a bad thing
- Hardware that don’t work on Fedora, it’s not Fedora’s problem
- Yes, code it, compile it or package it yourself (whatever case fits you)
I , I really do, but maybe it’s because I’m getting old (I turned 38 this year) or it’s because I don’t like most people, or it’s because I think IT and FLOSS problems aren’t the most important things in a world that have 2 wars, starvation and climate problems, maybe it’s because I stopped looking to do the things in “the most free and open way”, but I just want to do stuff and don’t receive hate.
- If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say it
- Do 5 deep breathings before saying (or write) anything
- Keep these type of post to your blog, becuase it’s going to be moderated (and it’s ok)
- Put yourself in the other people shoes
- Don’t judge, just do your thing and keep quite